The divorce rate seems to have dropped during the recession. Some people who have contacted me told me that they have decided to stay together because they cannot afford to get divorced. The reasons given to me are usually one or more of the following: one spouse has lost their job, the couples house is underwater, or both are too deeply in debt to afford the court filing fees.
nother set of reasons was offered by Susan Gregory Thomas in her article The Divorce Generation, published in the Wall Street Journal on July 9, 2011. According to Ms. Thomas, many Generation X parents experienced traumatizing divorces when their own parents divorced. Thus, many Gen X parents are convinced that they will stay together, for the sake of the children. She describes the lifestyle for many Generation X couples they may marry later, be more discriminating about who they marry, and live together prior to marriage to make sure they will be compatible roommates. Although the statistics Ms. Thomas provided indicate that the divorce rate is lower, divorces still occur, even in the best of situations.
She discusses that although many divorces are painful, even wrenching, that some of the intensely negative feelings can be ameliorated by a so-called “friendly divorce.”. Many Gen X parents are using alternatives to divorce, such as mediation, instead of the traditional two-attorny, confilct-driven court case type of divorces. Mediation does, indeed, help couples to reach their won agreements, develop workable parenting plans, and allows couples to retain a more cordial relationship. After all, if they have children, they will need to be able to speak civilly and work out issues for quite some time into the futue. It sounds like many Gen X parents are willing to try a different way of handling divorce – and kudos to them for being open-minded!