Divorce is Scary!

Divorcing clients are often frightened about divorce. Any number of things are frightening; the court system, going through the process itself, for their futures, for their cash flow, and for their children. If that isn’t enough stress, I occasionally see clients who have personality disorders, clinical mental illness, or substance abuse issues. In addition to being frightened by the divorce itself, some partners are wary, suspicious, or scared by their spouse even when married for many years. Some clients have told me that they feel like they are “walking on egg shells” around the other person. Depending on the clients, sometimes mediation may be appropriate, but in other cases, engaging attorneys may be the best approach. The person who has the mental or substance abuse issue will benefit from having adequate legal counsel to ensure they are not being taken advantage of. Moreover, the other partner benefits by not having their future ex-spouse legally able to reopen their settlement in the future by claiming that they did not have representation and were not able to understand their decisions. For divorcing couples in which at least one has mental or substance abuse issues, I have strongly recommended that they at least consult an attorney and have the attorney review their settlement agreement just to avoid future problems. At least one scary problem can potentially be avoided!

About wendy

Wendy W. Spencer, CFP, CDFA is a Certified Financial Planner, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, and a family law mediator who helps divorcing individuals, couples, and families to review and obtain more sensible settlement options. Ms. Spencer also helps these families to resolve their differences through mediation and/or participation in the collaborative divorce process. For the convenience of clients throughout the Denver metro area, Ms. Spencer has two offices – one in Arvada and one in Southeast Denver.

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