What if No One Wants the Kids?

Some years ago, while taking an administrative law course, the instructor who was also a practicing attorney, mentioned that the current trend was that neither spouse really wanted the kids and the responsibilities that go along with having children. Rather than this rejection being so overt, these days I see that the signals are much more hidden. Children are sometimes used by their parents as pawns. Parents may send “messages” to the other parent, use the children as spies and informants about the other parent, and generally bring the kids into the conflict where they really have no place being. Sometimes the situation degenerates into the requirement for intervention by grandparents or, in worse case scenarios, official child and family investigators. I think kids need to be kids and should have parents whose roles are parenting, not instigators.

About wendy

Wendy W. Spencer, CFP, CDFA is a Certified Financial Planner, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, and a family law mediator who helps divorcing individuals, couples, and families to review and obtain more sensible settlement options. Ms. Spencer also helps these families to resolve their differences through mediation and/or participation in the collaborative divorce process. For the convenience of clients throughout the Denver metro area, Ms. Spencer has two offices – one in Arvada and one in Southeast Denver.

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